Divorce

How does divorce impact kids? In class, there were more than half the students whose parents have been divorced. Divorce has become more common and common throughout time. I would like to share my experience and how my parent's divorce has impacted my life. As I have mentioned in my previous blogs about the story and what happened I will go into more detail on my life and what I struggle with having a combined family. I am scared to commit and get married. I will commit and rely on someone but when the question of getting married comes up I shut it down quickly. I think I do this because I am just nervous about getting a divorce. My brother has also gone through a divorce and it's not fun. So I have been super picky and questioned every little detail. Which I have a right to I’m spending the rest of my life and eternity with this person. I am also young and still figuring out what career I want to go into and what I want to do with my life. I also thought that getting married would solve that, but I know it can help but it won't fix it. I have so many good examples and people who support me and love me, so I am trying to work on myself before I pick and choose. Decisions determine destiny and lately, my decision has not been the greatest, so I am really trying to change that. The types of guys I'm into are straight-up losers and it has been a big problem and struggle throughout my dating. I am just now noticing and asking myself questions about what I really want in life. Just go get married is not the answer. Honestly, I think that is the worst advice ever. I am content and happy being single. I work work work and provide for myself and what I need. I have family and friends whom I love to spend time with. I would ask for anything else besides that. I have trusting issues because of my experience with dating and relationships. I keep on smiling and looking up because I have grown and learned from every single one. The quote I say all the time is you have to go through a lot of bad ones (losers) to find the right one.

“Somehow forgiveness, with love and tolerance, accomplishes miracles that can happen in no other way.” President Gordon B. Hinkley What I am super happy and proud of is I am still friends and communicate with my past boyfriends and people I have gone on dates with. Just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean you can’t be loving and kind. I am not saying be best friends with them but keeping in touch is a good thing. I personally know that because ending relationships can really impact someone's mental and physical health. Be positive and reach out when you have promptings too. That’s what Jesus would do.

Blended families have challenges on several fronts; they resulted from a failure in an earlier marriage, there are almost always continued tries of some sort, and there are few useful models of how a blended family ought to be constructed. A remarried family is not always accepted or supported by extended family members, which can impact negatively bonding. I know this has occurred in my combined family, especially with exes involved. My mom still today struggles with the whole family situation it makes me so sad she has been through so much but stays so strong. She is a rock built on the gospel of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

THANK YOU FOR STAYING IN TUNE THAT IS ALL!