Marriage

"Meanwhile, mortal misunderstandings can make mischief in marriage. In fact, each marriage starts with two built-in handicaps. It involves two imperfect people. Happiness can come to them only through their earnest effort. Just as harmony comes from an orchestra only when its members make a concentrated effort, harmony in marriage also requires a concerted effort. That effort will succeed in each partner will minimize personal demands and maximize actions of loving selflessness.” President Russell M. Nelson

I would like to share some of my views on marriage being in a combined family. Like I said at first my mother and father got divorced. My mom was nineteen years old when she got married. Did she want to get married, no she has told me she was not ready by any means? I think any girl that is nineteen years old is not ready for marriage. She had just graduated high school and went to college for about a year. She was just having fun meeting new people and going on multiple dating which is commanded by prophets. That is called the dating stage as we talked about in class. Then my dad came along and was looking for an eternal companion he was ready to commit and make that lifelong decision. If you don’t know my mom, I am a mini verse, and we are people pleasers just go with the flow for sure. They started dating and were on totally different levels of affection, values, and stages in life. When my dad proposed to marry her, it was with a t-shirt. Now, ladies and gentlemen if this ever happens to you run for the mountains run forest run. Not only was this one red flag mom continued to tell me more and more weird and crazy things my dad would do. She said there were multiple red flags and warnings. Why would you continue to date someone and go through with marriage if you first off didn’t want to and second guess your decision? Good guess because she was manipulated and did want to hurt his feelings. I have been in similar situations. You will know and feel if it’s the right one I promise you as my mom tells me that over and over. Love requires sacrifice. I am thankful for my mom’s stupid decision to follow through and birth me or else I wouldn't be here.

Throughout my life, I have always rushed to find someone and get married. My life goal is to have a family of my own, so I have tried so hard to accomplish that, but I never really took into consideration how important the one person is that you marry. I was just always looking for guys I was attracted to and that’s pretty much it. Then I had a moment for a while when I realized my dating technique is wrong in many ways. You are with this person for more than half your life and for eternity if you get married in the temple. My mom always says pick wisely. It is not all about looks it is about who they are as a person and who they want to become. Their personality, traits, values, and morals. I am only twenty I have plenty of time I should be in no rush. I believe there is truly just one person meant for you. It is the effort and sacrifices the person wants to be forth to make the marriage work. I have dated multiple guys I could potentially marry later it’s just the fact that I am not ready by any means. I want to be excited and stoked to get married and that time has not come yet.